When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice: but when the wicked beareth rule, the people mourn. Proverbs 29:2

white-and-black-preschool-girls11It is time to mourn in all nations, for wicked men are ruling and turning God’s wisdom upside down. How can God’s saints rejoice, when they see equity, righteousness, truth, and wisdom compromised and corrupted on a daily basis? King Solomon, writing to his son as a future king of Israel, made this observation and rule about political policy: the good people of any nation are seriously affected by the morality of their rulers.

The proverb does not apply to all men: the wicked love wicked rulers, for they promote and protect their sins. Many nations have loved and do love atheistic and profane rulers. The people of this proverb are God’s saints, especially those of Israel. Solomon taught his son godly motivation by looking out for noble citizens and honoring them.

Many nations have never had a righteous ruler, so they never had this reason to rejoice. However, even in nations that did not know better, even where there were few believers living, a considerate king that protected and provided for his people was a joyful thing. Violent tyrants, such as Herod the Great, who slew the children under two around Bethlehem, caused great mourning among even calloused citizens (Matt 2:16-18).

The political observation is true. When King Ahasuerus promoted Haman in Persia, the capital city of Shushan was perplexed at the rise of that wicked man (Es 3:15). But when righteous Mordecai replaced him, it rejoiced and was glad (Es 8:15). Israel rejoiced when Solomon took the throne, but they rebelled when his son Rehoboam succeeded him.
America in the 21st century appears to be a Christian nation under righteous rulers. But true Christians mourn, because the wicked rule. They protect infanticide, child rebellion, pornography, labor rebellion, sodomy, Islamic moon worship, adultery, evolution, treacherous divorces, national indebtedness, and lascivious entertainment. Saying or singing, “God Bless America,” does not prove anything but ignorance or hypocrisy.
David cried rivers of waters, when he saw men turning from God’s law (Ps 119:136). But a day is coming in which the Son of David will put down all authority and reign supreme in righteousness under God (II Sam 23:1-7; Ps 45:1-7; Is 9:6-7; Jer 23:5-6). Have you believed the gospel to be one of the few that will admire Him in that day (II Thess 1:10)?

What are the lessons? There is no cause for political joy in nations today (Ps 9:17; 33:12; 144:15). Let all in authority be righteous, even fathers, for the example and joy of their subjects (Col 3:21; I Tim 4:12,16). Let all saints give thanks and pray for their nation and rulers, for peace is possible, even in the midst of Babylon (Jer 29:4-7; I Tim 2:1-2).

Love has many facets

 

Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.

Proverbs 10:12

LoveAre you a peacemaker? God loves peacemakers. Good men love peacemakers. Do you do all you can to end fights, overlook offences, forgive sinners, reunite enemies, and live peaceably with all men? God blesses peacemakers, and it is a large part of godly wisdom.

Where there is fighting, there is hatred. Conflict cannot exist without hatred. Unless love wins, the strife will get worse. Love does not fight – it covers offences and sins. It seeks peace and pursues it. It cannot tolerate strife; it tries to end fights as soon as possible.

Strife, a word not used as much today, means antagonism, enmity, discord, contention, or dispute. It is fighting and conflict. While it is godly to contend for truth against sin and error, here is personal strife caused by the hatred of those who do not practice love.

Where there is envy, strife, enmity, conflict, or tension, all you need do is look a little deeper to find one or both parties guilty of hatred. Fighting and antagonism do not and cannot exist where each person is practicing Christian charity, or the love of the Bible.

But there are wicked persons, with hearts full of malice and hatred, which all men have by nature (Tit 3:3), who delight in stirring up contentions and quarrels by talebearing, whispering, evil surmising, and cursing. These profane persons have no conscience or compassion, like Ham and Shimei, and they will receive a similar fate from the holy and just God and from noble men (Gen 9:20-27; II Sam 16:5-14; I Kgs 2:8-9; Is 29:20-21).

Charity forgives sins and forgets sins, just as God forgives and forgets them. Love hides and conceals sins under the same forgiving cover that Jesus Christ provides every saint. This is covering sin, and it is a rule of life for saints of the most High (Pr 17:9; Jas 5:20; I Pet 4:8). But hatred, growing from anger and pride, loves to dig up evil, spread evil reports, and create strife and trouble (Pr 15:18; 16:27-28; 26:21; 28:25; 29:22; Jas 4:1).

Can you cover sins like Joseph, whose brothers could not believe his forgiveness, even after many gifts, favors, and passage of time (Gen 45:1-15; 50:15-21)? He put the best perspective on their horrible crime and wept over all of them. How did the Lord reward this one son of Jacob? He gave him a double blessing of two tribes in Israel (Josh 14:4)!

Here is a golden opportunity for child training by good parents. Children must be trained and corrected strictly in this matter of hatred and love, strife and peace, covering sins or exposing them. The natural antagonism and competitiveness of children creates a perfect setting for teaching godly traits of love, graciousness, forgiveness, and peacemaking.

Love has many facets (I Cor 13:4-7), but this proverb emphasizes one of them – covering sins. Love overlooks offences against it; hatred gets offended, holds bitterness, or plots revenge. Love forgets and hides the sins of the repentant; hatred remembers them or spreads them to others. Love hears rumors, or even factual news of others’ sins, but never repeats them; hatred craves private information and spreads it to any listeners.

Can you cover all sins, as the Preacher taught here? Peter once sought a limit of seven offences for covering sins, but the Lord Jesus pressed him to seventy times seven (Matt 18:21-22)! How can you fight others over a few pence, when Almighty God has forgiven you ten thousand talents (Mat 18:23-35)! These things should never occur among those who are Christians, and the sure judgment of the wicked servant is just and appropriate.

Covering sins is not compromise. It is not withholding Scriptural judgment, whether in the family, church, business, or nation. The rightful authority should speedily execute judgment, where God has ordained it. But covering sins should occur when the offences are against you, where there is repentance, or you are not in direct authority.

Hatred of sin is holy and good (Pr 6:16-19; Ps 45:7). But hatred of others, shown by anger at personal offences, ignoring repentance, whispering about sins, and talebearing is murder in God’s judgment (Matt 5:21-26). It proves a person to be without eternal life and living for the devil with a spirit from hell (John 8:44; James 3:14-16; I John 3:15).

What if a person says, “Oh, how I love Jesus,” but they stir up trouble, do not forgive personal offences, ignore repentance by sinners, and reveal sins to others? They are lying hypocrites, for the Bible says they are murdering descendants of Cain (I John 3:10-15).

Look at the character of Jesus Christ, who came into the world to save sinners. He had no respect for the self-loving “righteous,” for He knew the blackness of their hearts (Mark 2:15-17). Choose today to forgive and cover sins in love, so that you might easily and honestly pray, “Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us” (Matt 6:12).

The lesson here is the basis for true peace – love. Where there is strife, contention, and tension, there is hatred behind the false handshakes and lying words of murderers. It is your wisdom to live this lesson yourself, avoid wicked persons that hate, and train such evil out of your children. Be the greatest peacemaker in the world by practicing the wisdom of this proverb. May the Lord Jesus grant you the grace and wisdom for the task.

The lesson here is also the great gulf between the wise and foolish, between the righteous and wicked, between the sons of God and the sons of Belial. When Jesus met repentant sinners, He freely forgave them; when self-righteous Pharisees observe sinners, they despise them and hate God’s free and full forgiveness of them (Luke 7:36-50; 15:25-32).

Love is the greatest evidence of eternal life. Do you live peaceably with all men, especially other Christians (Rom 12:18; Gal 6:10)? If you believe God loves you, prove it by loving others; if you claim to love God, prove it also by loving others. Since God is love, those that are truly God’s will love others (Jn 13:34-35; I Jn 3:10-24; 4:7-21; 5:1-2).

The virtuous woman has more on her mind than just her family

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. Proverbs 31:20

9941The virtuous woman has more on her mind than just her family. Her ambitions, energy, and plans extend to the poor and needy that God has placed in her path. Rather than be content with having her husband, children, and home well cared for and happy, she has a conscience that drives her to take care of others who cannot take care of themselves.

Her thoughts toward the poor and needy are more than wishful thinking or kind words. Her thoughts result in action, diligent and personal action, which are the only thoughts that count in the sight of God and men (Pr 3:27-28; Jas 2:15-16). She knows that true love is in deed and truth, not merely in word and tongue (I John 3:16-18). Moved by God’s love for her, she has bowels of compassion to share her ability and substance with the needy.

The charitable giving here is not easy or passive action. “She stretcheth out her hand,” and, “She reacheth forth her hands.” These words do not convey casual donations or convenient acts of charity. A virtuous woman goes out of her way to meet the poor and needy and help them, even if it requires strenuous effort to accomplish the service. She is not merely available for charity; she volunteers and does the work without any prodding.

The virtuous woman has sympathy for the truly poor and needy (Jas 1:27). She does not exchange mock charity with friends, subdivision neighbors, or peers at work. She knows that giving to the rich will bring God’s judgment (Pr 22:16). Neither does she care or worry about the foolish, lazy, or wasteful (Pr 13:23; 20:4; II Thess 3:10). She, like the Good Samaritan, waits for the Lord to put an act of God in her path (Luke 10:25-37).

She knows godly charity begins with true needs in her extended family – parents, aunts and uncles, and grandparents (I Tim 5:4,8,16). It then serves the poor and needy in her church (Acts 2:44-45; Rom 12:13), those in other churches (Matt 25:40; Gal 6:10), and then those God puts in her path (Job 31:16-22; Luke 10:25-37). She is given to hospitality for the saints and known for generosity to strangers (Rom 12:13; I Tim 5:10; Heb 13:2).

A man with a virtuous wife must allow her a discretionary budget for such spending, and it will come back to praise her and him (Pr 31:23,31; II Kings 4:8-10). Stingy husbands can crush their wives’ hearts and deprive the poor, and they will suffer for it now and later.

A virtuous woman is loved by all and praised by husband and children (Pr 31:28-31; Acts 9:36-42), but her greatest glory is yet to come, when the High King of heaven will take special notice of her charity before the universe (Mat 10:40-42; 25:31-40; I Tim 6:17-19).

You are your own worst enemy!

There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. Proverbs 14:12

Samson and DelilahYou are your own worst enemy! You will cause yourself more pain and trouble than any ten foes! Your own soul is the deadliest danger in your life! With such warnings, men would never trust their own thoughts, right? Wrong! While you are destroying your own life, you will think what you are doing is perfectly right! You will never see the danger.

Other proverbs teach this warning. “There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death” (Pr 16:25). “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise” (Pr 12:15). “He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool: but whoso walketh wisely, he shall be delivered” (Pr 28:26). See also 16:2 and 21:2.

Some choices bring physical death. Consider David’s sons. Amnon thought it right to rape his sister: he died for it (II Sam 13:1-39). Absalom thought it right to steal his father’s kingdom: he died for it (II Sam 15:1-6; 18:1-18). Adonijah thought it right to use Solomon’s mother to beg for Abishag: he died for it (I Kgs 2:12-25).

Some choices bring soul death. Samson thought it right to date an unbeliever, but she left him blind and destroyed, grinding in a prison (Jdgs 16:1-21). Solomon thought it right to marry unbelievers, but they turned his heart to idolatry (I Kgs 11:1-13). Rehoboam thought it right to prefer his young counselors, but he lost ten tribes (I Kgs 12:1-19).

Your heart is deceitful above all things (Jer 17:9). It lies to you more than anyone else, and you believe it! And it is desperately wicked, so its lies are always toward folly and sin! Because your heart is so deceitful and wicked, you cannot fully grasp its danger to you, apart from Scripture’s warnings. The verse concludes, “Who can know it?”

Child, you think you can dishonor or disobey a parent. You lose (Pr 30:17)! Wife, you think you can withhold from your husband. You lose (Pr 30:21-23)! Husband, you think you can neglect your wife. You lose (Pr 5:15-23)! Young man, you think you can play with whores. You lose (Pr 7:25-27)! Parent, you think child training is too hard. You lose (Pr 29:15)! Pastor, you think you can alter God’s word or modify His worship. You lose (Pr 21:16)!

Safety is only by searching your heart; obeying your teachers, parents, and counselors; bringing every thought into captive obedience to Scripture; and keeping your heart there with all diligence (Pr 4:23; II Cor 10:4-6). Do not ever let your mind think outside the word of God (Ps 119:128). Which means you must learn it, and learn it well (Ps 119:11). Do not ever allow the profane thought you could get away with disobeying (Deut 29:18-20)!

Sexual sins are done in secret

For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings. Proverbs 5:21

 

woman-man-hotel-120427The LORD’s eyes are everywhere, beholding all actions (Pr 15:3; Ps 11:4; 139:1-12). Every thought, word, and deed is naked and exposed to the all-seeing eyes of the omniscient God. He sees and considers all your doings. Therefore, you should fear Him and hate sin.

But the warning is more pointed – you should fear God seeing sexual sins. Here a father warned his son of the strange woman and taught the cure for her. She is bitter, painful, death, and hell (Pr 4-5); she destroys lives (Pr 9-11); she brings bondage (Pr 22-23). The cure is to be totally in love with your wife and content with her body and lovemaking (Pr 15-19).

Sexual sins are done in secret. Adulterers rendezvous in private or dark places (Pr 7:9; Job 24:15). The pornography addict hides materials or media and makes excuses for being alone (Ezek 16:17; 23:14-16). The fantasizing person believes thoughts, imaginations, and desires are totally hidden from everyone (Pr 24:9; Ps 10:11; Ezek 8:12). The defrauding wife thinks she is secure and safe denying or avoiding sex with her husband (I Cor 7:3-5).

But the Lord sees and knows all such deeds and thoughts. Nothing is hid from His eyes. Darkness is as noonday to Him. He fills heaven and earth; where will you hide? He discerns the very thoughts and intents of your heart. He knows and considers it all. And He hates and judges sexual sins (Ex 20:14; Lev 18:6-25; 20:10-21; Matt 5:28; Heb 13:4).

The father asked his son, “Why love or touch a strange woman?” (Pr 20). She brings terrible pain and destruction (Pr 4-11); she causes bondage and death (Pr 22-23). But he wanted his son especially to know that God sees every sexual activity and thought, and He considers them all; He will give blessing to the pure and faithful, judgment to the filthy and foolish.

People go to great lengths hiding sexual sins from others for guilt, fear, and shame; but the only Judge they should fear clearly sees every deed and the thoughts behind them. Why fear others knowing your sexual sins, when the holy God sees and judges them!

The LORD sees and knows your sexual secrets, and you had better keep your sexual life pure and holy, for this is the will of God (I Thess 4:1-8). He watches all your sexual activities, thoughts, and words. He will surely bless the righteous and judge the wicked.

The Lord Jesus was tempted in all points as you are, but He remained faithful to His God! Single, followed by many devoted women, and more desirable and affectionate than any man, He lived with absolute fidelity to God His Father. Follow His holy example today.

Your future success requires humility

For better it is that it be said unto thee, Come up hither; than that thou shouldest be put lower in the presence of the prince whom thine eyes have seen. Proverbs 25:7

humilityHumility will win the favor of God and men. Humility is crucial to be a great Christian, a successful leader, a gracious person, or a man with friends. True humility never presumes upon the activities or presence of others. It is far better to be invited than to invite yourself, because you may and should be rejected on the basis of your own presumption! Let others make you important rather than trying to do so yourself (Pr 25:27; 27:2).

Only half of the proverb is here. These words are the explanation and reward for taking a humble approach in public gatherings. The first half declares, “Put not forth thyself in the presence of the king, and stand not in the place of great men…” Solomon taught humility by explaining good manners in public assemblies. It is better to take a back seat and be invited forward than to take a front seat and be asked to move back before those present.

The Lord Jesus Christ used the same illustration for humility, when He saw proud guests at a meal choosing the better seats (Luke 14:7-10). With greater detail than Solomon, as a parable is more detailed than a proverb, Jesus described the public shame of being asked to move lower versus the public honor of being asked to move higher! He concluded by declaring that He would reward humility and punish pride (Luke 14:11). Beware!

While the shame of public dishonor and rejection makes the proverb potent and valuable, the pride of your soul is what must be identified and eliminated. Proud actions that offend others are merely the symptoms of an arrogant spirit and haughty heart. True humility begins in the soul, where you admit your worthlessness before God and commit yourself to serving others rather than expecting and demanding them to honor and serve you.

How are you in group discussions? Can you calmly and patiently listen to others speak, or are you agitated with the need to talk? What about one-on-one conversations? Must you respond to every statement with one of your own? Why is it crucial for you to speak? Why do you feel the need? You are violating the principle of humility taught by this proverb. You should remain silent in most cases until your opinion is specifically sought.

Your future success requires humility. God Himself will surely bring you down, if you do not hate pride and arrogancy (Pr 8:13; 15:25; 16:5; Job 40:9-14). Men will reject you for friendship or business, for most men resent a haughty spirit (Pr 13:10; 26:12,16; 28:11). And you will make costly mistakes, for pride is blinding and deceitful (Pr 11:2; 16:18; 29:23).

Agur prayed for two things:

Remove far from me vanity and lies: give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with food convenient for me: Proverbs 30:8

wealth_and_povertyHow wise and prudent are you? Do you fear wealth as much as poverty? Do you know that financial success is a vain lie? Here are two of the most important prayer requests you can ever pray! Agur gave inspired instruction to his two students about the danger and deception of money and riches, and your future success and tranquility depend on it.

Agur had a great desire for two petitions (Pr 30:7). He knew the dangerous consequences of not obtaining them (Pr 30:9). He understood the deceitful and damning nature of both financial success and poverty, so he begged God to deliver him from the arrogance of being rich and from the temptations of being poor. He begged for a moderate income.

Agur prayed for two things: (Pr 1) to be saved from vanity and lies, and (Pr 2) to obtain only moderate success in life, avoiding both poverty and riches. What vanity and lies are under view? The vanity and lies of riches and success! How so? Let the connection, context, and Bible drive the interpretation (I Cor 2:13), since there is no hint at lies of false religion, evolution, false gods, a cheating spouse, hypocrites, perjurers, or other such lies.

Vanity is anything futile, profitless, worthless, or empty. You know what a lie is. Riches are both! David wrote, “Surely men of low degree are vanity, and men of high degree are a lie: to be laid in the balance, they are altogether lighter than vanity” (Ps 62:9). God condemns men and their empty accomplishments. Agur wanted to be saved from wasting his life chasing the illusion of riches and success (Pr 23:4-5; Ps 119:136-137; I Tim 6:6-10).

Think honestly and wisely about money! It does not satisfy, even when you get lots of it; this is vanity (Eccl 4:8; 5:10)! It disappears quickly (Pr 27:24; Eccl 5:11)! It corrupts morals (Mark 10:23-25; I Tim 6:9-10; Titus 1:11)! You cannot take it with you (Matt 6:19-21; Luke 12:13-21; I Tim 6:7). It chokes out and destroys fruitfulness (Matt 6:24; 13:22). What vanity! Are you wise enough to believe these warnings and pray against wealth?

A wise man prays for a moderate income and estate, so he can avoid the temptations to sin on either end of the financial spectrum (Pr 30:9). He prays for contentment, and he learns contentment, knowing it is the true measure of success (I Tim 6:6; Phil 4:10-13). A wise man maximizes life by walking with God, regardless of assets or enemies (Heb 13:5-6). He fully despises obsession with filthy lucre (I Tim 3:3,8; Titus 1:7; I Pet 5:2).

Reader! This advice is only in the Bible! The fools around you adore riches! They have sacrificed their lives to vanity and lies! Add these two prudent requests to your prayers!

Have you kept your heart pure?

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23

P2901+health+heartYour heart is your most valuable asset. And it is much more than the muscle beating 70 times a minute in your chest. You need to consider the inner, decision-making part of you that loves certain things and chooses to do them over other things.

You can keep your heart good, or you can let it become bad. You can be diligent in this project, or you can be lazy. As a child of God, your old man tempts you toward evil, and your new man exhorts you toward righteousness. Your heart chooses between them. It is a series of choices that every person makes each day. What are you going to do this day?

Whatever is in your heart comes out in your life. If your heart is full of good things, your life will show that goodness; if your heart is full of sinful thoughts, your life will show them. The large tests and decisions you will face in life are dependent on your heart, and so are the small choices that we make hundreds of times a day.

Have you kept it pure? Are you working hard to keep it pure today? Do you know that laziness in this matter will bring severe trouble and pain to your life?

The Lord Jesus condemned the Pharisees for emphasizing man’s outward appearance; and He emphasized man’s heart instead. He said the following in two different places:

O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things. Matthew 12:34-35

But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man: but to eat with unwashen hands defileth not a man. Matthew 15:18-19

Sin begins in the heart. Lust for a sin attracts your heart, so you think about it. If you think about it enough, you will do it. And the result of this choice is death. You can protect yourself by keeping your heart diligently from sinful thoughts (James 1:13-16).

How can you keep a pure heart? Protect it from outside influences toward sin (Ps 101:3; I Cor 15:33), and supply it with outside influences toward holiness (Ps 119:11,63; 101:6).

Since even thinking of foolishness is sin (Pr 24:9) and desiring another woman is adultery (Matt 5:28), you must often examine your heart with the Lord’s help (Ps 139:23-24).

Because the Lord Jesus sees your heart clearly (Heb 4:12), your diligence will be rewarded (II Chron 16:9) and your laziness will be punished (Ezek 14:3-8).

David, the almost-forgotten eighth son of Jesse, was chosen over all his older and successful brothers to be king of Israel, because he had a pure heart like the Lord’s. What a glorious goal!

Dear reader, is this your holy ambition today?

Your thoughts about loving hurting people are worthless

As he that taketh away a garment in cold weather, and as vinegar upon nitre, so is he that singeth songs to an heavy heart. Proverbs 25:20

Here is inspired wisdom for caring for the discouraged. It does not matter what your mother taught you or what you read in a psychology book. Here is advice from heaven for loving hurting people. You may think your cheerful approach should lift their spirits, but you might as well steal their coat in cold weather or ruin niter with vinegar. You are a miserable comforter, and your poor friend would be better off without you.

If you love figures of speech, there are four in this proverb. There are two similes, one metaphor, and a metonym to be analyzed. The words “heavy heart” are a metonym, which are substituted for a discouraged and troubled person. There is more than just a heart involved, for the proverb is dealing with a grieving person. The substitution of “heavy heart” for the grieving person shortens the sentence but magnifies the point.

CompassionSinging songs is a metaphor, which is used to condemn any light or frivolous approach to a discouraged person. The man with a heavy heart does not need someone singing songs to him. Such insensitive treatment is like a sword in his bones. Nor does he need superficialities, pleasantries, jokes, stories, trivial comments, or a lighthearted manner in his presence. In fact, these approaches are demeaning, irritating, and counterproductive.

They are as demeaning, irritating, and counterproductive as taking away a man’s coat in cold weather. Instead of helping him get warm, you steal the little protection he had and leave him worse than he was! What cruelty! A light and frivolous approach is also as contrary and counterproductive as ruining sodium carbonate with vinegar, which otherwise was useful for washing. These are similes, as indicated by the adverb “as.”

Your thoughts about loving hurting people are worthless. Neither God nor men care that you are light and jovial when facing doom and gloom. Neither God nor men care that you are sanguine and cheerful when others are fearful and worried. You are totally wrong about life, and one day soon you will regret it (Eccl 7:1-6; 12:13-14). Here is inspired wisdom: you should sympathize with those that are discouraged or grieving. You should weep with those that weep and suffer with those that suffer (Rom 12:15; I Cor 12:26). Continue reading

Two kinds of people can ruin your life

For an odious woman when she is married; and an handmaid that is heir to her mistress. Proverbs 30:23

Two kinds of people can ruin your life. It is wisdom to avoid these obnoxious persons, and it is wisdom that you not be like them! God inspired Agur to warn you about both.

Queen_VictoriaThe prophet taught Ithiel and Ucal by sets of four things (Pr 30:1). Here are the last two of four things that ruin earthly peace, for humanity cannot bear either of them (Pr 30:21).

The first culprit is a disagreeable, offensive, and repulsive wife, which ruins the blessing of marriage and tortures the man she took victim. The sex and institution designed for his peace and pleasure become the source of his pain and problems. Many men have fallen into this trap and been held by rusty steel claws for the duration of their miserable lives.

A good wife is one of life’s greatest blessings (Pr 18:22; 31:10; Gen 2:18-25; Eccl 9:9). But a bad wife is one of its greatest disappointments, for she perverts the purpose for her existence and of marriage itself. A man eagerly gives up his freedom as a single man to marry his chosen bride, only to discover with this wretch a painful life of daily torment.

Honest reader, you have seen this creature many times. Among your relatives, there is likely a disagreeable and domineering wife that ruins her husband’s life. Outside your family, if you travel much in public, you have seen more henpecked husbands living out their shame with her in public. Do you pity him? Do you hate her? This is wisdom. Continue reading